Timeout for Leadership-your one-minute leadership idea
Tip Sheet #5
“Is this someone who works for you? Is this You?”
A picture is worth 1000 words so therefore today’s post will be brief. Are you causing a member of your team to look this way at the end of the day? Are you beating them up?
Of course, you are not physically assaulting them but are you beating them up emotionally? If you are, it is time to stop. This type of action is not changing behavior. It is not stimulating growth. You cannot be that coach on the field that is constantly yelling and berating your players. You may think that this sort of behavior may work, but I assure you that it doesn’t. People do not respond to it. You know that and you know better.
Let’s take a look at another form of abuse. Namely ignoring the person. You purposely withhold any sort of approval for the person or the job that he /she does. You never acknowledge his /her presence. You act like that person does not even exist. I promise you that your behavior is torturing that ignored person. You are doing irreparable harm. Is that your goal? Is it your goal to destroy that person? If it is, you are probably doing a pretty good job. Always remember that every person you destroy impacts the performance of your team.
One of the worst forms of bullying that would always break my heart would be when the group of middle school children would purposely exclude their fellow classmates. Exclusion can be brutal. They would not let that person sit with them at the lunch table. They did not invite that child to the party that every other student was invited to. Do you exclude that employee from meetings? Do you exclude that person from school or corporate events? If you act like this you are being a bully. You are not any better than that middle school kid acting like the king/queen of the cafeteria.
If you are behaving in this manner, I am sure at the end of the day you also look like the fellow in this picture. Not only is your behavior killing your employees, your behavior is killing you!
Stop being so negative. ALWAYS COACH YOUR TEAM “UP”.
One response to “Leadership”
I’m in agreement with all that has been shared however, we must bear in mind that all relationships whether personal or professional will have to endure abrasions. Sadly those moments of disagreement can often manifest itself in the behaviors mentioned. Therefore, it is equally as critical for solid leaders to learn how to mend relationships for we all appear to be exceptional at dismantling them.